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The older woman and younger man relationship is not exactly a new one, but it is one that is growing in acceptance and popularity. The global recession has seen many mid life relationships come to an end, with the male breadwinner role diminishing and women becoming more independent and solvent. From this has come a breed of cougars, women in their 40s and 50s who like to date younger men. Cougar Dating will be a popular activity in 2010 with websites bringing these people together. For men who want to date older women there are a range of sites catering for this relationship. Explore it today and meets cubs and cougars online

Jewish dating traditions range from the rigidity of rules and regulations formulated in Biblical times to the modern, is not prevented attitude of young people today. In the old days, men and women were far apart until the matchmaker made an arrangement, introduced the two young people, spoke to two groups of parents and set a date for the wedding.

Men and women are kept separate in the temple, praying in separate sections of the building, with men on one side and women on the other. The curious thing about this arrangement is that even though the wedding was held in a temple, the same rules apply until then. The bride and groom were separated for the service until it was complete and then and only then, could be adopted and begin to celebrate their marriage.

In more modern times, in this great country forward, the idea of keeping the sexes apart, especially during the wedding ceremony is absurd. You can not keep today’s children also have a brick wall dating back to Jewish traditions and can not change that. However, there are some traditions that remain in place even today. On the traditional practice of motherly guilt, mothers have influence over their children and good child out of their way to keep them happy.

In Jewish families, the mother has the power and if anything the children want their parents - inheritances, respect, blessing - then the rules and traditions dating back to Jewish family should be respected. It is not a right, not a rule or a Biblical commandment. It’s just the way it is. Hasidic of conservative reform, each family has its traditions, even in modern America. The link that keeps the Jewish people together also keeps children from the data with respect to the traditional family and marriage.

First of all, let’s define “friend”.

Do we want to find an “old” friend?

Lots of websites specialize in helping you find an “old” existing Friend.

These sites are called “classmates”, “reunions”, “public records” or names along the lines of trying to find acquaintances from way back, from school, the Service or previous jobs.

Do we want to find “people”?

We can use “publicbackgroundcheck”, “usa-people-search”, “peoplefinders” types of sites for finding people.

If, however, we are looking for love and are calling it friendship initially then things get really complicated.

For the word “friendship” the Web comes up with 46,100,000 replies.

So we should be more specific about what exactly the “friend” word means.

“a person you know well and regard with affection and trust; “he was my best friend at the university” ally: an associate who provides assistance; “he’s a good ally in fight”; “they were friends of the workers” acquaintance: a person with whom you are acquainted; “I have trouble remembering the names of all my acquaintances”; “we are friends of the family” supporter: a person who backs a politician or a team etc.; “all their supporters came out for the game”; “they are friends of the library” a member of the Religious Society of Friends founded by George Fox (the Friends have never called themselves Quakers)” wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn

We can now of course rank friends: good friends, intimate friends, family friends ad infinitum. When we then continue to talk about “friends” and “friendship” we soon start approaching the decision we have to make; do we just want to be penpals or do we want to meet face to face at some point in time.

This brings us to the dangerous word: DATING.

Yes, we have now convinced ourselves that we want to date somebody.

Just on the Web or for real? We can now play games based on the fact that most people trying to find dates on the Web are married.

Does that surprise you? Given the anonymity of the Web it is very likely that if I am fat and ugly I don’t want to emphasize this fact when I try to attract a date, so temptation is very great to embellish things a bit and to say in my description that I am “Voluptuous” and “Attractive”.

Who knows, in all likelihood I will never meet this person anyway and this is only fantasy. Guess what?

I now start corresponding in earnest on the Web with this person I know nothing about. I tell this person all my deepest secrets, except the fact that I am ugly and fat.

After doing this for a while my “Date” says that we should meet in person, because it seems we are really compatible. YEEKS! What now?

Well, you brought this on yourself and you have these options:

1. Go on a crash diet and get a face lift.
2. Forget about this person and try again with a new date.
3. Hope your Date is fat and ugly too so you should take a chance and meet anyway. (This takes a lot of courage).
4. Hope your Date is pretty or attractive and VERY understanding and will accept you the way you are.

(Fat chance). So, anyway, there you have it, some of the possibilities you have when you want a Friend.

One thing you should pick up from this : you are probably better off if you are honest to your future friend or date; it may prevent depression, bouts of overeating and Internet Withdrawal Symptoms.